Thursday, March 17, 2005

Just a Brother...

Guys, have you ever been called a brother by someone that you like, adore, and just plainly wish to ask that person of the opposite sex that you would like to go on a date, get to know each other better and even, just maybe become partners in a commercialized romantic world of ours? Well I have… and more times I have been called this then I really like.
And so i ask this question, “Why am I called a brother?” It just popped into my complex mind after I have lots of time on my own to contemplate the ponder…

Guys: Does it seem that there is a large banner that follows you around with out you knowing it and has the words “Hi! I am a brother material…So please call me your brother!” This same sentence also seems to be craved onto your forehead that only the opposite sex are able to see.

What does it means to be ones brother? Is it that, that particular person:
A.) So like my real brother back home thus adopt him as a brother.
B.) You are so cute I want to adopt you as my brother away from home.
C.) I consider you as my friend and brother…nothing more.
D.) We can be close but as friends only.

Ladies, is there some other worldly reasons to call the other humanoid a brother? I would like to know. What is it that qualifies a man to be bestowed the benevolent title of a Brother?

I do understand and respect that it is a really noble title to give a guy and too your eyes, ladies, it’s a good thing. But I am curious to find out… If the scenario is that this guy is a good friend and you know him for some time now. Then he one day reveals that he like you. What make that person become a brother? Could it be a polite way to reject someone that you know whom would wish and hope to have a relationship with you?

I know I am going to hate the answer, but I just got to quench my curiosity…

6 comments:

Iced Nyior said...

"What is it that qualifies a man to be bestowed the benevolent title of a Brother?"

Calling a guy my brother is one of the highest compliment I can give a guy. A brother (for me) is way beyond a friend, someone who understands you, whom you can talk to, whom you feel has a connection with you. And of course a place to bermanja without the risk of him perasan-ing that you like him.

"If the scenario is that this guy is a good friend and you know him for some time now. Then he one day reveals that he like you. What make that person become a brother? Could it be a polite way to reject someone that you know whom would wish and hope to have a relationship with you?"

I'd never use the excuse of "brother" to reject a guy. I feel that is too cruel. its like saying "hey so sorry that i dont like you but lets just be like really close without being a couple"

I did however experience bout 3 yrs ago that my brother and I liked each other without the other person knowing (he told me recently). That goes to show that calling someone a brother doest mean that the possibility of a relationship is zero.

Then again love is such a tricky thing so you'd never know....

SomeBaL said...

HEy Fi, you are some special that i consider fun to bully...and you are like my lil sister that i never had... but in almost all case... i have been labeled as a brother to that person(s)... its always the case... and i am getting tired of being called a brother...in some aspects.

Iced Nyior said...

well....not to make u feel bad or anything..but usually when a gal calls a guy a brother, it means that she has no feelings for him romantically

Seryna said...

Oh Iqqy... Dun be sad... U said I'm ur brother also so how?? hehehe... But for me, I call someone a brother coz he IS like brother to me. It's sad innit dat ppl consider my brothers my BFs (u,Charlie & John)coz we r so close. But the beauty of brothers is dat they tell u things dat friends don't & they r (quite) honest abt things...

"What is it that qualifies a man to be bestowed the benevolent title of a Brother?"
dunno... read my blog & maybe u'll be enlightned! hehehe...

SomeBaL said...

Fi, I know that... and thats the cause of this post. I am very fortunate that i have friends like you, andre, serena and the others. But my point here is why do i always end up as the brother? esp those that i like or have a crush on... is it because we anyone) become i be-friend them first?

Zack_Tiang said...

Bal... I'll be honest...
You're looking too hard... take it from me, dude...
it ain't healthy to look hard...
Right now, I'm just letting my life go as it is...

I do hope to find that one girl that would love me and have me more than just a friend or brother...
but.. as I once read..
'Love is like a butterfly. Chase it as hard as you might, it will always avoid itself from you. But wait patiently enough, it might just come to you on its own.'

I know it ain't something tat's easy.. but what to do...
I'm trying to do that myself at the time...
Thankfully, I have CV & me academic life to help occupy myself from looking around for that one girl...

Be strong, Bal... you're not the only one that's suffering from loneliness.. haha..
trust me... you aren't..
Just be stronger... more patient.. and someday you'll be rewarded immensely...
as a new motto of mine goes...

Work + Stress + Determination = Rewarding outcome